Friends Forever

Of all human relationships friendship is the most divine,
Because only friends accept and cherish everything about you even the way you whine!

Some people treasure books others precious gems,
What I treasure most is the times spent with my friends.

Each with their own quirks which make it all the more fun,
A bond forms over the late night chats talking till the rising of the sun.

True friends will never agree with you on everything,
I have been chastised many a times and asked “what the hell were you thinking?”

But you will never hear them say “I told you so,”
When you make mistakes or suffer a heartbreak they help you let go.

For you they don many roles,
Like children to your parents, enemies to your foes.

Nothing about them to you is unknown,
Their homes almost like your own.

Life without friends would be an awful song,
No one to tell you that the tune you are humming is completely wrong.

Education, careers might build a physical distance,
But every time you need them they know may be they have a sixth sense.

God created mothers because he could not be everywhere,
And he created friends so that we have some one with whom everything we share.

There is nothing great enough I can do to show my gratitude,
All I can do is give a hug and say an thank you!

Me and my crazy observations

Some of my crazy observations and interpretations :)

From autowallas: If you wanna get to your goal quicker than others only having money(read big cars) does not help, you also have to be a little crazy and absolutely fearless. If you din’t get it travel by an auto for a month you will know what defying death means.

From traffic jams: Sometimes taking the unknown and longer route is better than the short cut because nothing can replace peace of mind. You might save a few minutes on the short cut but you won’t enjoy the ride. So basically what I’m trying to say is always do what you want in life, don’t be scared to take the “road less traveled by”. Maybe you will not match up to the monetary standards set by your peers and expected of you socially but the journey is yours and no amount of money or the social status money brings with it can beat the happiness of doing what you want everyday.

Some rare times traffic jams are good. All of us must surely have at least a few good memories of traffic jams rite?

From Bus Drivers: Expect the unexpected. Buses for me are synonymous with DANGER and my friends who drive agree with this completely. They are like the lecturers/bosses from hell, you can’t do anything about them even if they screw you for no fault of yours:)

From teeth: Getting a wisdom tooth definitely doesn’t mean you become wise, no one would be a better example than me. Haha

From autos again: You can never sleep as peacefully in any car as you can in an auto or bus.

From jeans: Pair of jeans are like your friends, you get more comfortable with them along the years and you know their true worth when they protect you from a rough fall. And such jeans are never thrown away even if you buy new ones:)

Words we use

I love you, I love you too. Haven’t you heard these words being used commonly and casually? A guy says it to a girl or a girl says it to a guy they proclaim to be madly in love and after a month can’t stand each other. “Instant love” I would like to call it disappears as quickly as it appears. Teenage is the time when you experience feelings of infatuation, admiration or plain lust for the opposite sex and also immaturity and teenage are synonymous due to such reasons. But teenager or adult how can people be so shallow when it comes to relationships? Why on earth become someone’s ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’ when you don’t completely like them? Yes at some point of time each one of us must have felt the want or wish to be liked by a person romantically but it is beyond me how u can claim to “love” someone after knowing them for just a very short span. Public displays of affection is considered cool and the relationships itself seems like it’s up for public display .Whatever happened to privacy? Attraction is understandable and very much normal but I cannot help being surprised by the frivolous relationships I see around. Sometimes you are scared to ask the other person about their ‘guy or girl’ cos it’s very much probably there is a new person in their place. It almost reminds me of that gaming advertisement where people are competing about everything here it’s just their love life. I’m no expert on love I do not know very well how things should be but I do know how they should not be. . But when you see some people who genuinely like each other, do not feel the need to go about announcing it and who realize the commitment and respect that should accompany the word love, hope prevails!

Where am I?

Life is beautiful it has so many hues,
Out of all of them why do I see only blue?

If someone asks “Hey how are you?”
I smile and say “Fine, thank you how about you?”

I smile but it doesn’t reach my eyes like it used do,
I laugh at jokes cos isn't that what you’re supposed to do?

Why is the pillow wet so often?
To sleep peacefully have I forgotten?

I listen to my ipod don’t want the bus to stop,
Mr.Conductor can’t I just sit here all day?
I have lots of time to while away.

The doc asks “Tell me where does it pain?”
I say “No where doc.” Ah how well I feign.

How do I tell him it pains deep inside,
The reason? Hell there is none but if you insist so much I can make up a ton.

I know it’s been long since I spoke to you dear god,
But won’t you please help me?
I’m trying to find the old me.

I knock inside me and ask anyone home?
I get no answer; she’s gone out somewhere to aimlessly roam.

So many changes in me I just cannot bear to see,
Help me, help me find the old me.

The VEILing Woman

Every holy books advocates modesty and decency. But who gets to interpret these religious books which teach/tell you how to live your life? The higher caste Brahmin Pujaris who exploited and discriminated against the people belonging to “lower castes” thanks to the status they had in society? Or the mullahs and imams who were all prominently MALE? Does god say women aren’t “pure” enough to be allowed to certain temples or that they have to cover themselves in a burqua in order to be modest? If yes then either god is wrong or the interpreters are!

These biased interpreters have been spreading the “lord’s word” for centuries! And they have quite successful in making billions of people believe that their path is the righteous one that will lead them to salvation. Will the Holy Quran which tests a believer’s limits of self restraint in the month of Ramzan tell women to cover up from head to toe in order to not “provoke” men. Men who are strong enough not give in to their hunger and thirst from dawn to dusk cannot control their sexual desires on seeing a woman without an added layer of clothing? I disagree, give men some credit they are surely not animals who do not know what constraint is.

I am not here to say why men don’t have to wear a certain garb to look decent. Because we need to go forward not backward. Now Men wearing a burqua isn’t going to help is it Today on Barkha Dutt’s debate show about Shabana Azmi’s comments on the
Hijab, Mr. Owasi said “To wear or not to wear the hijab is a completely personal choice”. But I fail to see where wearing it is a “choice”. I know quite a few girls who do not wish to wear the hijab. But they do. Where is the choice Mr.Owasi when a young girl is gifted a burqua on her 13th birthday? Isn’t it a not so subtle order from her mother, who herself had detested the hijab when she was a young girl but is too afraid of her daughter not being accepted into their “society”. I have worn the burqua quite a few times to get a view of some of my friends worlds. I felt in a single word “restricted”.

I fail to see how a woman entering into a temple can make the god impure? The same women who till not very long ago were considered goddesses? Laxmi, Devi, Saraswathi are now worshipped only on occasions like diwali, Dussera! What happened to the teaching in the Bhagvad Gita which rightly said a man will never prosper unless he worship the goddess who lives in the house in other words the wives/daughters/sisters.

Let us ourselves be the interpreters of religion. Let us all be the messengers of equality and humanity!

Why?

College days are the most memorable days of life. The carefree, aimless days are indeed truly cherish able but this age is also the time to make many decisions. “What next?” is one such imposing question which keeps looming at the back of your head when you are confronted with choices in career/life. You realize that its all in your hands now, the same freedom to choose which you demanded earlier doesn’t seem so appealing anymore. You ask yourself what you enjoy doing (studying rather) the most. And introspection is not something which comes to teenagers easily. Some also have the additional burden of parental pressure to follow the stereotype education say engineering, medicine etc [no offence meant to people who are willingly doing it] After you finally figure out what you are really good at comes the choice of college. And most of us are very prone to get carried away by the frivolities [ask me about itJ] the choice between the hip n happening college or the one offering better education. I think the choices we make the outcome of us answering the question “Why?” If you want to know the whys of practical sciences you take up engineering. If you seek the answers of the human body you opt for medicine. If the ways of economics and trade interest you, you take up commerce. If you want the world to become aware of the happenings you take up journalism.

There are a lot more questions like “What if?” This question is relatively easier to answer because for this there are two straight answers one right the other wrong. Even if you do make a few wrong choices nothing is lost you learn and grow wiser. You grow wiser when you get to see your marks when you choose not to study just like you grow wiser when you hurt people you love and they continue to stand by you. You grow wiser when you conclude whether the choices you made were right or wrong. We grow wiser in order to choose againJ

College Castes!

College!This word brings a smile to a lot of adult faces.Many of us at first had surely expected college to be a place to have fun and study at times(well ok i admit i had 2 years back:) Then came sound advice from a lecturer in junior college, she had said:Students many of you probably are expecting college to be a place to enjoy and have a crazy time but trust me this is not a karan johar movie and it does not happen that way.I have two words for that advice SO TRUE.Well junior coll was sort of an extension of school but now i have entered 'actual' college.Din't have any hopes of college to a party place this time thankfully a month has passed and things have become routine.But I observed one thing over the past month colleges are divided into castes!I thought the stuff shown in chick flicks like mean girls etc was fictional,i know naive me.Lets have a laugh now while I take you through the groups.

1. The Nerds: The people who follow every sentence the teacher says,write it down dilligently,nod their heads(remember noddy the cartoon?;) to the teachers tune,oiled hair.But no one messes with these people because you mess with them and no notes for you before exams.Haha.

2.The Dumb Blondes:Designer clothes,shoes bags earrings to match(or maybe clothes to match i don't know) Nothing wrong with looking good but c'mon they can THINK before talkin sometimes right.For them life revolves around make-up,clothes and boy-toys.Consider repeating the same outfit twice in a week as suicide:D Avoid the above group like plague!

3.The Wannabe's: The people who try to imitate the above group and fail miserably don't get what admirable quality they find in the 2nd group people but they whatever it is they consider them gods and obey every command.

4.The Tom-boys: Think they are boys,act like them(all the irritating boys characteristics included.Don't mingle with the 2nd and 3rd group.

5.The Back Bencher's: Add some spice to the boring classes with their interesting and innovative ways( which vary depending on the strictness of the lecturer). Laid-back people,the ones teachers loathe(the feeling is mutual actually;) classes would be incomplete without them.

6.The All Rounders: The ones who study well without being nerdy.Who look good without being Dumb,Who are not teachers pets but not their enemies either.

7.Me: I have no idea where I figure, don't relate to any specific group.So people who share my view welcome to the club:D